Sunday, July 28, 2013

Personal Piece: What's charming in men

This piece is based on my personal experiences, through interacting with men of all sorts (friends, co-workers, dates, and etc). This is not written to attack the opposite sex, but instead serves as an open discussion for everyone. 

I guess these can be classified as my pet peeves. Some of which a number of female counterparts can relate. 
The list is consolidated to the top 3 attributes observed in men.

1. CHEAP, not a good thing.

I've had experience with a number of guys who act like they are gentlemen but are JUST underlying cheap. 
For example, it's a sweet thing to do when you offer to pay, but you don't need to BRAG about it. When you tell other people about what you do, you're using this for personal gain. Whether for people to give compliments or to put you as a "nice guy", I don't know. But don't be the reason for people to put a negative label on you. Let other people discover and praise, at their own will. 

Another scenario is when you offer to help a girl buy food. Personally, I am a fair person who pays back money afterwards. I hate owing people money/favors unless its a close friend. One time I offered to pay more than the cost because my guy friend walked several blocks to get me Ice Cap at the beach & didn't expect money back. (two thumbs up for gentleman!) But if you ask for money BEFOREHAND to help her buy food when she didn't ask, that shows you are cheap. 

Be noble, a real man values the relationship(s) over money.

2. Be assertive, ambitious in your approach.

How you approach life in general. A men who is ambitious and assertive is charming, by nature. It shows that he's capable of accomplishing anything he puts his heart into. It reflects his strength and ability to protect his friends and family from sticky situations. When he is missing this characteristic, its up to the individual to judge whether to stay or go. 

3. Chivalry is a double plus. 

A man who was raised by a lady will appreciate every lady he meets. Believe it or not, its the little things that some of us see and appreciate. Holding the door for the lady, or letting the girl first may seem like little gestures but they make a big difference. This is also one of the large contributing factors to decide on moving on to the next step.

My first random piece, thanks for reading. 

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